If you’re anything like me, you have what seems like a million ideas and goals for what you want to pursue. You start, love it for a month or two, then the excitement fades. You’re left with another unfinished project and await the excitement of “what’s next”, while also feeling quite guilty because you gave up. Frankly, the only reason I’m writing this is because I want to follow through with something I started. I had a goal of writing in this blog once a week. I haven’t written for about a month. If I wait any longer, it’ll be another failed blog (I’ve had at least 3 in the last few years) and another sad story about not following through with a project that once brought me joy. So here it is.
I’m not an overly consistent person, I wake up when I feel like it, I’m at times paralyzing-ly indecisive, and am in no way a type A personality. I’m very spontaneous with my time, where my mind goes, and what my interests are in the moment. I love having fun, doing physical activities, being social music, arts, spirituality… all THOSE goods. Writing in a blog once a week is tough for me, but it’s a challenge I put on myself because it makes me feel good. I miss having little assignments like in college. I like to think it keeps ya sharp.
(For the record, I find those traits attractive and inspiring. My husband is opposite of what I explained I’m not, aka super type A and I love it and him more than anything. Opposites attract 😊)
I’ve definitely reached milestone goals like graduating from college, traveling a lot of the world, learning a few languages, getting married, getting my yoga teaching certificate, teaching, starting a side hustle, etc. I know what I want, and I trust things will work out. You probably won’t find me with a 5 year plan written in extreme detail, though I agree there’s something to be said about always having goals, and goals make life more fun. I also believe that “over planning kills magic”). So there’s a fine line here =)
“Move from a place of inspiration instead of pressure”
This quote changed my life last year. I was literally ill and flared up for a long, long time. A truly amazing woman told me to move from a place of inspiration instead of pressure. I let a lot of shit go and opened my eyes to this new concept. As simple as it is, I think this whole not being consistent with this blog thing comes down to the notion of unnecessary, self-induced pressure. I’ve been so worried about perfection and being indecisive about a niche that I just didn’t write…the feeling was waaaaay too familiar. I couldn’t let another project just vanish. 1. I don’t actually need a niche. 2. I need to remind myself this is for fun, so I’m creating unnecessary pressure about something that’s a hobby. Pressure sucks the fun out of it! Does not make any sense, right? I’m practicing consistency and self-accountability, and I love sharing what I’ve learned with others.
Why I write:
Writing in a way that clearly communicates my thoughts and makes sense to others in turn helps me organize my thoughts and how I’m feeling. It helps me reflect on important things I’ve learned, and I like to share what has helped me in life so perhaps someone can take that tip or trick and enhance their own lives. It’s fulfilling when you get a message saying, “Thank you for sharing, I tried XYZ and it’s awesome”. That makes me FEEL GOOD. It inspires me to share more! It’s the best part about being on social media and the internet. Sometimes I’m like, oh, I’m sharing way too much. I shouldn’t share so much. The other half of me is like, you’ve come a long way and have learned so much, it’s a shame if you kept it all to yourself. Not much is more fulfilling than helping others.
“Do it now”
This motto coincidently showed up and slapped me in the face the first week of January:“Have the Do It Now Mentality”. I’m a do it later kinda person, and this just stuck. And it’s been my thing this month. And I’ve effing loved it. If you’re looking for a new years resolution, DO IT NOW instead of later has been amaze balls. And it’s not all about DO DO DO GO GO GO… 2 days ago I decided I was going to have the “do it now mentality” about taking a break, lying on my foam roller, and just chillin in my living room. I needed that too. It works for getting shit done AND relaxing. That’s the best!!!! Those are the words that got me to write this, right now.
Virtues that gain the respect of others are usually things like being timely, asking questions, making plans, setting dates, caring, saying/doing nice things for others, the list goes on and on. When you really think about it, it doesn’t make sense we do anything and everything for others, but can’t keep a promise to ourselves. If you’re having trouble following through on a project, goal, or something you just want to pursue like a dance class or hanging pictures up, Take 5 minutes and figure out how you can do it. Get over the fact you don’t know where to start and just… start. Do it now. Set the goal. Set a date. Take the time. Be on time. You’re really important and so is the love and respect you can GAIN FOR YOURSELF. You can literally GAIN (MORE) RESPECT. FOR YOURSELF. That’s amazing. Sitting here writing this is helping me gain more respect, which in turn helps me LUUUUURV myself.
Remember, your goal is your desired result. It’s something you actually want. You want it because it will make you FEEL GOOD. YES. Reaching your goals are fulfilling, they help set you up for success, they urge you to try things you’ve always wanted to try, make you feel damn good about yourself on the way there and once you hit it. INSPIRE YOURSELF. If not now, when?
Here’s to following through❤️ Hashtag selflove
A friend sent me a cool quote that I’ll leave you with,
“First, aiming to meditate most days rather than every day, is a good goal. Consistency counts-the more often you meditate, the easier it gets and the deeper and more enduring the benefits-but if you miss a day, your inner critic won’t have a chance to call you a failure. I call this approach “daily-ish.” It has elasticity, or ‘”psychological flexibility,” a key concept from behavior-change research, which can help lead to an abiding habit, be it a meditation practice, a new gym routine, or a commitment to learn Esperanto.”
Siempre con amor, all the love,
PS Thank you for reading this semi all over the place post. Until next week. Some pics from Florida