RE:SHAPE YOUR THOUGHTS TO LET GO
I did a mirror meditation this morning. The prompt was as follows:
“Look at your forehead and imagine that you are pressing a button and ejecting a CD of your old beliefs and negative thoughts that is playing in your forehead. Take your hand and imagine that you are pulling that CD out of your head and throwing it away”.
I thought, wait a minute, why do I even house these negative thoughts and beliefs, and why am I holding onto them? I know better than to do that. Why do I need a meditation prompt to remind me to “let go”? What insecurities am I holding onto? Where do they stem from? What have I been telling myself and how is it holding me back?
I’m sitting here thinking, if I can really let go and eject what no longer serves me, what can I accomplish? And how can I actually do this?
I’m all about finding tools that to help me achieve over-said quotes and phrases, like, learning tools to “CALM DOWN“, and “let go of what no longer serves you”, and “just be happy”. We’ve all heard these as MUST DO’S TO LIVE A GREAT LIFE, but they don’t come with any direction. No manual. No suggestions on how to do it. So I pondered how to let go of what no longer serves me and here is what I found…
The Words We Speak and Think Hold Power
I’m reflecting on how words shape us, how when we say things to ourselves, it becomes our reality. Words can lift you up or pull you down. Words can make you happy or sad and upset. Words have the power to change your mood in an instant. Words can make you fall in love or suffer in hate. WORDS and thoughts can lower self esteem, self confidence, and manifest insecurities, negative thoughts and habits. Words are powerful
We use words and experiences as excuses about why can’t do things, why we act a certain way, why we aren’t capable of doing XYZ and we really let these words and thoughts dictate our lives. You didn’t get into your first choice university so you think you’re stupid, a bully called you ugly so you think you’re ugly, you think you can’t wake up on time so you’re always late. You don’t think you’ll ever have enough money so you scramble at the end of the month. You get it. You own up to these negative thoughts and behaviors, and it shapes your reality.
Take me for example in high school and early twenties: “I have ADD so I can’t pay attention or get anything done”. “Oh, sorry I’m late I have ADD and I got distracted, my time management sucks.” “I’m not good at XYZ because I have ADD and I can’t pay attention”, the list goes on and on. Do you know how long I used this as an excuse? Years. I could live up to this forever. I could use ADD as an excuse for forgetting about plans, having a messy room, not finishing tasks, being late, not paying attention in conversation, etc. etc.
I truly believe when I stopped saying it out loud, all of a sudden life got way more organized and a lot of stress disappeared. Instead of saying, “I have ADD *insert excuse here*”, I’d say, “I’m so punctual. I’m so organized. I’m so focused” … I didn’t really believe it at first, but I faked it. It’s not to say I didn’t put action into place, but saying the positive words and what I strived to be sure made it easier to believe. Did I still try really hard to have a tidy room, be on time, finish tasks? Yes, (I still try really hard). But the difference is now I say and believe I can do it, instead of I can’t. When I said I couldn’t, I simply couldn’t, I didn’t even give myself a chance.
My interpretation of “letting go of what no longer serves” you hides in letting go of words that no longer serve you.
Here’s the thing. You don’t actually have to believe it at first. It can kind of be a joke. You can look in the mirror and say, “I love you, I think you’re beautiful, you’re going to have a great day”, even though you may look in the mirror and think, damn girl, you look tired, your hair looks bad, and your sweater is old. Just push that negative thing away and say the nice thing. Fake smile at yourself in the mirror, you may actually laugh at yourself because you think you’re so cheesy. It works. Your subconscious can’t tell the difference between a joke or if you’re being serious, and you can use that as a super power or a super downer!!!
Once you start to pinpoint the words and thoughts that really wear you down, you can start to let it go, so that you can be free of those things that bring you down. TO FEEL A LITTLE MORE FREE. YES. That’s the frickin’ money, honey. WHY hold on to the past? You wake up every morning, why not be renewed with fresh and exhilaratingly positive words?
How to throw away old beliefs and negative thoughts:
- Focus on what you WANT to be, not the things you *currently* think you are
- Write down things you think and say to yourself daily. Do you have thoughts like, “I’m dumb, I’m always late, I’m indecisive, I’m so unorganized, I don’t care, I don’t have enough time to work out, life sucks, I hate traffic, I can’t save money, I never have enough money, I’m fat, I’m ugly, I don’t have enough time, there’s never enough time in the day”…Write down all the negative things you say and think about yourself. BE HONEST.
- Write down things you want to say, think, and believe about yourself. “I love you. I’m beautiful. I’m going to have a great day even if there’s traffic. I’m so organized. I’m so timely. There is so much love in my life. I’m rich af, I have great hair, I have time to do yoga. life is awesome, I’m so good at my job, I have all the time in the world, I have so much time”
- SAY WHAT YOU WANT OUT LOUD. EVERY DAY. “I’M HAVING SUCH A GOOD DAY. I’M SO ORGANIZED, I’M SO PUNCTUAL.”
- Smile at yourself in the mirror and say I LOVE YOU 🙂
- MEDITATE + JOURNAL
YOUR INSECURITIES AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS can haunt you for the rest of your life, unless you come to realize it’s all made up in your head and you can reframe your mind. Here’s to letting stagnant thoughts and beliefs go. Who’s with me?
MUCH LOVE, #meditatedaily
KYLA ROSE ROCCHI
All pictures photographed by @totalsoulfuljourney